June 27 - Understanding our wellbeing through stories
Stories can change perspectives about mental wellbeing
There is a certain understanding of others and ourselves when we listen to a story that we can relate to. Not all stories will evoke this feeling, but some will.
We would like to prompt you to reflect on the benefits of identifying stories that you connect to and possibly writing down some of your own experiences. Some research shows that claiming and naming your experiences can do good for your mental wellbeing. It is completely up to you if you would like to share or not. For now, we encourage you to reflect on the potential of storytelling in your life.
1. What would you like others to know about you?
2. How would you describe yourself in three words to a stranger?
3. What kinds of stories do you find it easy to understand/empathize with?
If you’d like to share your work with Decompress, please sign up through this Google Form. It will also be linked in the ‘Tips’ section , so you can make your decision after reading through this page. It is totally up to you if you’d like to write or not; it’s not mandatory for the course at all!
The Science of Narratives
There is research that suggests “benefits of expressive writing” on mental wellbeing and health. Also, “[s]tudies…show how writing can help us deal with adversity in the present and dream of better futures”. (Tarragona).
For example, one type of writing that can impact mental wellbeing is expressive writing. Dr. Pennebaker, a leading researcher in the field of expressive writing, has learned that expressive writing can serve as a tool to understand emotionally confusing events and to ease emotion pain. He writes that “[expressive writing] is a brief writing technique that helps people understand and deal with emotional upheavals in their lives…[i]ts greatest appeal is that it is a method with strong scientific evidence behind it” (Pennebaker and Smyth).
Another way to write about mental wellbeing is simply through traditional stories, essays, and memoirs. Literature and writing can play a role in helping yourself and others understand the more difficult to digest parts of mental wellness. People have used their experiences to tell narratives about mental health as a way “to reflect on society, the mind, and what it means to live with mental illness” (Heing). For example, through a series of essays, Esmé Weijun Wang relates her story “of living with schizoaffective disorder with clarity and grace” (Hung). She says: ‘“perhaps I was attempting to provide evidence of my side of the story, or trying to make sense of a situation that was confusing even to me’” (Hung). An essay is one way to go; others may choose to write a fictional story with an underlying message that tells us something about mental wellbeing - self acceptance, kindness towards others, positive body image, etc. It can be a short story, a poem, or even a short novel - anything you’d like!
Not everyone will understand nor will go through a similar journey in mental wellbeing as the next person. But writing your own story, even without sharing it, can help you feel less alone and may help you cope with the effects of particularly stressful or challenging events in your life.
Besides expressive writing, which focuses on emotional events and experiences, just daily journaling can help, too. Journaling provides a space for positive self talk, a place to put down daily feelings, or to help you get a hold on worries or fears.
Tips for Writing
Set aside time for writing
Write for 15-20 minutes a day, uninterrupted, for three days consecutively.
2. Observe your emotional boundaries
If you feel that writing about a certain event will push you to more emotional pain or is too uncomfortable to write about, understand that and stop writing. It’s okay
3. Think carefully about what to write about
You can try writing about something that has been worrying you, something that makes you happy, something you’ve been dreaming about. I particularly like this poem prompt: choose one emotion and write a poem of how that emotion is in your life.
4. Share only if you feel comfortable doing so
Sharing personal journal entries may be a step too big for some, but perhaps sharing a fictional short story or a poem may feel safer or easier. If you feel comfortable sharing your work to be posted on our blog, please let me know in this google form.