February 3
This month, we’ll be trying something new on Decompress. We’re switching to a format where you’ll read and interact pieces written by collaborators and Decompress writers. This week’s page is brought to you by The Mental Health Alliance at Valley Christian!
MHA '“strives to create a safe environment for anyone to share their thoughts & experiences while spreading awareness about the importance of mental health”. Today, Decompress and MHA talk about active listening.
What is Active Listening?
In order to know what Active Listening is, we need to understand what non-Active Listening is. The latter form of listening is the act of simply waiting to talk or thinking of what to say once it is your turn to speak, all while someone else is talking. In contrast, Active Listening happens when we completely focus on absorbing, comprehending, and reflecting what the speaker is saying. This means consciously hearing not only the words, but also the complete message being communicated—what is truly important. In short, the “active” means taking steps to draw out details that might not otherwise be shared and/or absorbed.
1. How does active listening make you feel?
Why is it important?
When we tell our friends about something—whether deeply personal or casual—we don’t always need advice. We just need someone to listen.
By developing good listening skills, we can show others that we care and are trying our best to understand their point of view. This can help us develop strong, meaningful relationships with anyone from classmates to employers. Active listening is a great way to let others know that we’re interested in providing the support they need and building lasting connections with them.
How do I be a good listener?
Rather than speaking, try to just listen. Make sure to spot key phrases because those may show signs. As a listener you want to observe how the speaker speaks and the tone of their voice because that can dictate their current state of mind. Showing concern when listening to someone is key in order for them to feel comfortable around you. They are not looking for sympathy rather just someone who wants to just listen to what they want to say and be there for them. Try as much to “actively” listen and follow up with what they say by being encouraging rather than offering advice. Being a good listener is someone who can empathize when listening and that will lead to the solving of the issue.
Takeaways on Active Listening
Give the person your full attention.
Take away distractions
Use positive body language.
Follow up conversations afterwards: Check in on them every now and then to show them you care and support them.